📝 Forgive Your Parents

It’s not easy to talk about parents.
Especially in a culture where they are placed above everything.
Where “they did everything for you” and children, even as adults, still feel like they owe something forever.

Many of us grew up with love - but also with emotional absence.
With constant care - but silence around our feelings.
With voices that frightened us, expectations that weighed heavily, comparisons that made us feel not enough.
And as we grow, we realize the heart can hold both love and pain - for the same people.

Forgiving your parents doesn’t mean forgetting.
It doesn’t mean accepting everything that happened.
And it’s not a justification for the hurt that was caused.
Forgiveness is personal. It is an inner process.
It’s a way of freeing yourself from the grip of the past.
A way of breaking the cycle so the same wound doesn’t quietly repeat itself through generations.

Because most of our parents did love us.
But they didn’t always know how to love in the ways we needed.
They were tired, unsupported, afraid.
They raised children in a time when emotions were hidden, trauma was masked with work and silence, and softness was mistaken for weakness.

To forgive your parents is not to deny your truth.
It’s to speak it fully.
To say: yes, I felt alone
yes, I was hurt
yes, I needed more from you
And still - I choose not to carry this pain in the same way anymore.

Forgiveness happens slowly.
Sometimes when you begin to understand their story.
Sometimes when you see them not just as parents, but as people.
Sometimes when you become a parent yourself and feel, for the first time, how hard it is to give what you never received.

And sometimes, forgiveness is quiet.
It’s no longer holding the pain so tightly.
It’s allowing yourself to heal, even without the apology that never came.

Not for them.
For you.
So you don’t carry that wound into your relationship with yourself, your children, or those you love.
Because when you forgive your parents, you’re not saying it was all okay.
You’re saying your heart deserves to be free.